Career advice no one else will give you

So many of us have no idea what makes us happy. There are so many aspects to consider when it comes to employment or anything in life.  It requires hard work to pinpoint exactly what we desire. We’ve probably all heard someone say, “I don’t know what I want.  But I know what I don’t want”.  Many people will use what they don’t want as a tool to find what they want.


Wouldn’t it be nice if it were always true? The reality of it is the more you avoid what you do not want, the more of that, which you do not want you may get. Then how, you might ask, do we find out what to look for when it comes to our careers? How do we know what’s really meant for us and what isn’t?


I would like to share with you advice from a career coach, Penelope Trunk.


1.  Identify patterns . Humans are habitual beings, and very often we do not see where we miss the mark. We continue doing the same over and over again, which yields us exactly the same results - the ones we do not want. If you have a mentor, speak with him or her to gain a completely different outlook on what you should do and how you should approach the subject all together. If you don’t have a mentor, look for one. It’s incredibly helpful to have someone who can identify what you need to change and is not afraid to tell you. Be ready to listen. 

2. Finding a job should not be difficult . If you cannot find a job you think you want, you do not know what you’re looking for. Recruiters can tell in about a minute if you’re a good fit for the position or not, not because your resume looks a certain way, but because you are genuinely passionate about it. If you don’t think it’s that easy to see? Well, that’s why you are still looking. 

3. Look for a lifestyle, not career . If you think a perfect career will give you the lifestyle you desire, it’s far from the truth. You need to identify what life you want to lead, whether it’s traveling or serene mountain living, then you’ll be able to see more clearly which career path will suit that choice. You do not live to work, you choose your work to support the life you aspire to live.

4. Look for vulnerability, not connections . This a fascinating TED talk by Brene Brown. Vulnerability, contrary to what society teaches us, is a way to connect with people on all different levels, including professional. Watch the talk; it will give you a completely different perspective on how humans connect and what’s the core of human connection.

5.  Don’t go by structural barriers, address the barriers inside yourself . Deep inside we all know what we truly want. What I’ve observed is we work very hard to suppress that which we truly desire by putting mental barriers on our ability to act. Stop doing that. Career search process and the rest of your life will instantly become easier. Do you know what’s most beautiful about children, outside the fact they are so cute? They are honest with themselves and those around them. If they do not like something, oh, you’ll know. If they like something, they will make sure you know. The real challenge here isn’t which company I should work for next, but to learn how to look at ourselves in an honest way again.


We hope these tips help. Good luck!


Suggested reading: How to find a job you will love.

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Riz from Vegas
Hello There! I concur with everything you said here, "finding a job should not be difficult". That was me! Two years, after graduating from college.... still can't find a job. And Yap! I told myself the same thing "maybe I do not even know why I'm looking for". "Look for a lifestyle, not career", Just two days ago, while surfing the internet I found what I really believe in a job that I wanted to. I call it my Dream Job, where I can travel around the world, every 2-3 years. I've had the same job for 15 years, so I thought it's time to enjoy my life to the fullest. This International website calls it "Holiday Working". Hopefully I will have a job soon! Great advice, thank you.
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